Over the past few months, I’ve been grappling with a whole host of personal issues, that has led me to question a lot of things that I’ve normally taken for granted all these years. What would irk me most was my response to the situations, most of which were beyond my control. It has been tough taking on the odds when giving up felt like the most sensible thing to do. I’m so thankful that eventually, the optimist in me took charge and decided to hang in there, irrespective of the outcome.
Perhaps, I should tell you that since I tried and tried really hard, things did eventually get better and even though we still have it tough on some days, we are able to see light at the end of the tunnel. The past three months seems to have been the longest three months of my life ever. It has been a roller coaster ride for me, trying to come to terms with events and situations that I thought would never ever come my way. Well, never say NEVER, is what I learnt. You never know what life has in store for you until you face it. To say that my mental and physical wellbeing became a casualty in the process is an understatement. It actually turned my life upside down as well! What a journey it has been! And, now, looking back, all I can say is—what a learning it’s been!
But, that’s just my story. I’m sure you have one too. Have you ever wondered, how all too often we get into a tight spot that almost nudges us to give up? And, because, we cannot seem to find an answer to our problem, we actually stop looking for one. That is probably where the problem lies.
Maybe, if people wouldn’t give up so easily, but would just hang on a little longer, many tough problems would end up getting solved themselves. Why knows, sometimes, just plugging away at the situation until it is taken care of, could lead us to our resolution?
“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”
—Harriet Beecher Stowe
A few essential things we could do at this stage is to keep an eye on what’s coming next. Staying aware is an absolute must while we’re on this journey of keeping up against the odds and letting the light come through our cracks.
Changes don’t happen on their own—We need to make them happen consciously. If we want more positive energy in our life, we will have to create it. And it surely can’t happen if we give up or quit.
Looking beyond our immediate reality might be a key challenge at a time when we are going through a crisis, and yet, that is when we most need—to follow a purpose greater than ourselves that gives us perspective and to make us feel that we have earned the right to enjoy our lives. Finding a worthy cause—be it anything— where the focus is on someone else, might be one of the best things one could ever choose to do during this time. And it works amazingly, trust me.
Finally, it really comes down to how we gather our inner forces to lead us on. Even a last minute dramatic reversal of a situation has the potential of leading us ahead, provided we make the best possible use of all that is made available to us.
As Franklin D Roosevelt says,
“When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on.”
Simply put, when all else is lost, it is best to tap into whatever resources we may have. The idea is to stick to the fight. To put up our best. To do whatever we can with whatever we have. If we go down, we go down fighting. Giving up can never be an option.