Catching Up Over Coffee

 

Last night, yours truly was up until late, chatting with friends, as is normally the case, these days!

It came like a whiff of fresh air—the much-awaited opportunity to leave aside all worries, forget the endless piles of chores, and dive in for an hour or two of chatting to our heart’s content.

Dispelling our initial scepticism, we’re now comfortable with having to show up before each other, ever since we’ve realised how easy it is to meet up virtually, without having to entertain the thought of either leaving home, or having to fuss over what to wear and how to reach our meeting point. All we do is make ourselves at home in a quiet corner that offers us just the right amount of privacy, settle down with your favourite beverages (optional, of course!) and get set for the evening!

The camaraderie is palpable. Across varying time zones and changing moods we allow our conversation to flow, unhindered. Most days, it flows easy as water, as we offer one another a window into our souls. Most often, we go along rather slow, and as we pick up pace, we find ourselves diving into a broad spectrum of topics, dipping between the serious to the soulful, bordering on the amusing, the outrageous and the downright quirky as well. I think it encourages us to be ourselves, as we are—which probably explains why these chat sessions also emerge as being cathartic, in some ways.

Often, as it happens., the weight that we might have been carrying within us all week, gets lifted in a matter of minutes; perhaps something that we picked up about writing is shared, little trivia of our everyday lives often gets shared (albeit, with a pinch of salt!) and almost always, we will crack up with something extremely ordinary but funny, that life seems to throw at us, in the most inconspicuous of ways. We seem to agree that despite the ups and downs, we must lift each another up, that we must not give up hope and that despite all heartbreaks and the stumbling blocks, life must go on.

For some reason, our indulgence in making self-deprecating remarks takes precedence over our achievements; almost always, the overly self-critical attitudes towards our writing comes to the fore. I assume, that our preponderance to exaggerate our failures, is actually a way of coping with our growing self-doubts, considering that we are all a work in progress at this point in time, hoping to come to fruition, at some future stage. The growing doubts drown our little victories as we wallow in misery—something that most of us seem to admit rather openly, but we don’t harp on that topic anymore. Once we share our self-doubts, it feels almost cathartic to our creative souls. We move on to other things in life.

On the whole, it’s a nice feeling to learn to let go and be who we are. Far from perfection, we seem to work on our little goals as writers. To be authentic is a choice. To be comfortable in our skin is essential. To share our thoughts without the fear of being misread or misunderstood an absolute necessity, within the group.

We know, at the end of the day, sharing a laugh when life gets tough is the best medicine and the best way forward. It usually works for us most of the time. I’m sure it works for everyone.

Good communication is just as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after.

 

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Written as part of our #SoulfulSunday freewriting exercise—a concept ideated by VinithaShilpa and yours truly.

 

7 thoughts

  1. Good communication surely raises the energy levels and makes it hard to sleep thereafter. It makes the mind and the heart to keep on floating in the deeps where earlier they had been on the verge of drowning in the same deeps. Why do we criticise ourselves with respect to our being and our creative personailities is also my question?

  2. A good conversation can be such a good stressbuster. Just talking and listening without inhibitions and judgement – that’s the kind of people we need in life. This was such a beautiful read.
    That reminds me, i should give my friends a call soon.

  3. You know, I have been thinking about the way we react harshly to ourselves. We are so kind to others – their achievements and failures. But we are so incapable to embrace our achievements and failures with that kindness. Why? It’s a bad habit and we must break it. How are we able to shower those words of encouragement to others when we can’t do that to ourselves? Are we faking it? I don’t think so. Must remember charity begins at home. We need to be kind to ourselves first, otherwise it’s going to be a turbulent ride.
    The chats have been helping me a lot. I am not always very critical about me now. Every time I say a good thing about someone else I tell myself that it is applicable to me as well. Negative self talk will only result in negative self worth sabotaging our pride and talent, right?
    I loved this coffee date, Esha. It resonated with my thoughts. Let’s help each other in embracing our flaws and strengths equally. 🧡🤍

  4. Ah! That’s the best spot to be in. So glad you got that time and as you rightly said, it’s cathartic to know we have friends who will have our back. And so true that a good laugh is the best medicine forward.
    Lovely to be reading you after long, Esha! I’d join on some Sundays. A free write sounds like my kind of thing 😉

  5. Yes, yes, and yes! Yes to all of the things you have expressed about these chat sessions, Esha! And, we ought to be grateful for having such friends who do not judge, who let us be and who support and love each other, unconditionally.
    Wonder what we would do without our friends!

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