Life has a way of throwing things at your face when you least expect it. After countless struggles and endless attempts to work on my yearly plans, two years back, I decided to do away with writing ‘fancy’ resolutions, once and for all.
Why ‘fancy’ did you ask? Well, I think, I realised that once you reach a certain point in your life, resolutions no longer hold any significance, because you know they stand on slippery terrain. One may not foresee how and where situations change and everything that one has been planning for might never see the light of the day. That was how I experienced the shift from making resolutions to setting intentions.
In the face of one of the most powerful challenges of my life, 2018 had already taught me that there was no point crying in the rain and waiting for sunshine when all I needed to do was to change my stance and learn to dance in the rain instead. Naturally so, in 2019, ‘Flow’ came to be my word of the year. It brought me wisdom and acceptance. But, more than that, it also made me aware how our time in this world slips by faster than we think or realise. It lifted my soul from wallowing in self-pity to letting go what was not meant for me, and living life one day at a time in the face of unpredictability.
This was followed by ‘Immerse‘ as the word of the year for 2020. As days rolled into months, I felt the power of this one word permeate through my being, eventually leading me on to embrace the challenges, become more accepting of the unpredictability of life and learn to embrace the fragility of our own existence, in the face of the unforeseen.
The storm of 2018 and 2019 had turned into a full-blown cyclone in 2020 and threw our lives into a tumultuous spiralling frenzy, beyond what I’d have ever imagined. What a year of learning and unlearning it turned out to be. Despite the challenges and the paucity of time, I took the effort to create the time for writing, blogging, creating art and photography. Not just that, I took up singing and fulfilling my dream of starting my poetry reading channel on YouTube, whilst working on the book that I’ve been meaning for a long time—things that were sitting in the pipeline for years before 2020 taught me that I had to get down to working on them if they had to see the light of the day. My biggest learning on this has been that whenever we set out to do something, it’s not really time that is the most crucial factor, but our intention to prioritise that one thing and get it done. But, somewhere deep down, I also realised that before I got started on my intentions, I had to work on myself—to get my well-being into focus before I was ready for taking on whatever the year had in store for me.
With that, in mind, I came up with My Word of the Year for 2021—
It struck me sometime back, that with all the multiple roles that one has to play on a given day, it is all too easy to ignore oneself for the more pressing issues (and people!) at hand. In the last few months of this pandemic year, I realised how essential it is to nurture myself in order to have a happy, upbeat mindset. Yes, even if life is tough, you can have that positive mindset, when you know how to nurture yourself. You feel better about your life in general and it’s easier to get through challenges on every front when you feel nourished and nurtured. This, in turn, allows you to have more to give to family and the loved ones.
So, instead of watching out for the plans that life has in store for me, I decided that I shall be focussing on what I am going to be putting into my life, especially in the everyday moments.
I trust that nurturing the self is what I need the most, right now. Unless I fill my own cup, how can I fill that of the others around me?
I’m eager to see how 2021 will unfold for us, especially, with the pandemic raging on. There is no denying that there will be challenges ahead. But, let us not focus on that alone. We need to focus on the possibilities, as we send out a prayer to the Universe to help us get back on our feet, regain the lost tempo of our lives and to thrive in the hope that things will take a turn for the better.
So, with a lot of hope and fervent prayers, I’m looking forward to stepping into 2021, promising to live in the moment, immersing myself in all that I do, and nurturing the self, to the best of my ability.
Do you also have a word of the year for 2021? Do share yours in the comments below. I’d love to know the story behind how you came up with your Word of the Year.