I often wonder why it happens this way—Just when you’ve been working hard to set things right and finally they all seem to come together and fall in place, life suddenly throws a volley at you, grounding you like never before. Just why?
Lately, a family crisis has thrown things completely out of gear, especially at a time when I’ve been feeling really upbeat about some of my plans that I’ve now been working on for the past few months, and now I’m face to face with a situation where every plan seems to be out of place and there’s a terrifying uncertainty on a host of issues.
Why oh why now— I ask myself. Of course, I have no answer. We don’t often find we have answers to these moments. If we did, we wouldn’t be ordinary mortals, would we? We’d be wise enlightened souls who have the answer to every situation under the sun. What really gets to me is my tendency to get lost in my feelings about it.
The most difficult part of uncertainty, for me, is the inability to plan and feel in control. I always end up speculating a lot, which leads to feelings, lead on to more speculation and then more feelings.
I realise that not knowing what is waiting around the corner can be uncomfortable but the truth is we cannot see beyond the realm of the next moment—what lies immediately ahead of us. So, the next best thing to do is to be in readiness to face the consequences. I draw inspiration from everywhere, staying hopeful that this too shall pass and that I shall feel upbeat again, very soon. It helps to remind myself that even though I cannot see the future, I can help create it by being hopeful about the possibilities.
When nothing is sure, anything is possible.
So, for the moment let me trust the wait and embrace the uncertainty. And in the process, let me also allow myself to stand up for the right to feel pain, possess the maturity to endure it, to own the scars and have the pragmatism to deal with the realities of life.
Nobody says growing into the strongest, wisest, truest version of ourselves has ever been easy. We cannot give up without trying, though!
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(Linking up with #Mondaymusings on Everyday Gyaan)
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Uncertainty is so threatening to me. But it had been uncertain years these past few ones and we were okay. So I am beginning to learn that it’s okay to not know and be unsure. Great reflection, Esha. I admire you, Esha, the way you think and write make sense to me always. 🙂
Thank you for stopping by and sharing your words of appreciation here, Vinitha. I guess it is a very essential life lesson to learn to live with uncertainty! I’m hoping to get there soon!
Yeah, that’s life! You plan something and something else happens…like someone up there is saying,”Now let me see what how you face this!” Isn’t it? But, as you said, becoming the bestest version of ourselves has never been easy, so stand up to every storm that you face and keep living!
Thanks for the uplifting thoughts you shared here, Shilpa! When nothing works, it is these thoughts that often give us the motivation to go on! Thanks for being there!
Loved the ” for the moment let me trust the wait and embrace the uncertainty. ” At times this is the best policy
Thanks for your appreciation, Neha. It can be very tough facing the moment though and nothing prepares one for it.
the fear of uncertainty can be daunting … but stay strong as with time this too shall pass. I always love reading your thoughtful posts … mellow yet filled with wisdom. Hope you are able to sort out all the problems that’s bugging you.
Thank you for your kind words Rajlakshmi. Fingers crossed …hoping for some light at the other end of the tunnel soon! Will share when I hear something positive soon. Thx again
Oh yes. Life’s like that. The unexpected uppercut just when you seem to be in control of the fight (or at least, the round in the fight). Takes the wind out of your sails (and your soul). But “this too shall pass” is true then as it it was always. So I have something to fall back on, and remind myself that even though I’m not in control at the moment, I might be soon. Or that I shouldn’t break my head about the things I cannot control.
Thank you Vinay! Yes, resilience is often undermined as a quality until you realise nothing else can help you get through those impossible situations in life! Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.
Big big hugs Esha. This too shall pass yes, and every cloud has a silver lining. It’s also the darkest before dawn ain’t it?
So keep your beautiful chin up and give yourself a big tight hug for holding through this trying time.
Much, much love
Thank you for your kind words Natasha! It means a lot to me. Yes, trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel, as you say.
Embracing the uncertainty…I’m learning this too, Esha. Hugs – with you in spirit.
Thanks Corinne! Just keep telling myself as I say to you now – this too shall pass!
True that Esha..When for the slightest moment we feel everything is in place as we want it to be….the next thing we know is that we are hit by another issue to deal with. Stay strong and don’t lose hope. Love & Hugs!
Absolutely, Keerthi! So unpredictable things are, and we feel so vulnerable to the slings of fortune coming our way! Thanks again. Much love and hugs right back to you too!
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Fear of unknown daunts one and all… you are not alone! Feeling of being drifted away due to situations beyond our control is very unpleasant and frustrating. But this too shall pass…Let the Time reveal the solitude that you are seeking, ASAP!!!
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Thank you so much for your encouraging words Anagha! Not giving in may seem tough but that’s what is keeping me focused! I got to face it!
I hope whatever it is that has made your plans go awry is settled. I know the feeling when nothing is in control. It’s terribly discomforting. I try to turn to positive affirmations, gratitude in such times. Yes, doesn’t make the worry go away but does help me cope. Hugs, Esha.
True that Nabanita. Can’t control the situation but can change my response to it! That’s what I’m doing right now!
I understand how difficult it must be for you to have something personal crises come in the way of your plans. I too have faced a lot of situations like this and I keep asking why. All that we can do is to be strong and take every moment as it comes. More power to you 🙂
Thank you for your kind words Reema. You’re right- we got to take each moment as it comes and stay strong! More power to you too, Reema!