There are days when we wake up feeling nothing is right with what we do, say or think. We are unhappy being who we are and tend to compare ourselves with everyone else. If we look into the mirror, we see too many flaws and remember too many past wounds and failings to love ourselves unconditionally. In fact, it leads us down a spiraling course of negativity.
Do you have days like that? I know I do. Of course, it is anybody’s guess where that trail of thought usually leads one to. At the pit – right at the very bottom, from where it can be a struggle to pull oneself out.
Why does that happen? Why is it that that especially when we’ve made mistakes, we really don’t like ourselves? It leaves us feeling miserable, with our self-acceptance in shards.
I’ve come to believe that we are much better collectors of our shortcomings than our strengths. We routinely fail to see our strengths and cling to antique scripts we carry about our lack of worth. Won’t you agree?
So, can we change this at all? Good news is, we can!
To begin with, we need to set an intention – to change our perspective from doubt and shame to one of acceptance and trust. Isn’t this where the transition from darkness to light happens?
One very effective method of dealing with self-doubt is listing our strengths, the highlights of our life, remembering the achievements and the accomplishments, the hardship we’ve overcome, the lives that we’ve touched one way or the other, and the connections we’ve made. Keeping this list handy and reviewing it often, helps us to keep adding to it from time to time and reminding ourselves of who we really are, instead of what we think we are.
Can you see why we can’t see ourselves clearly, without clearing those weeds that get in the way? That is the only way for letting positivity in. And whilst we become more accepting of ourselves, let us also let go of past regrets, because, all too often, they stand as barriers when we are struggling to accept ourselves in our true light.
The balance-sheet of life shows our wins and our losses, but our self-worth is much more than what this balance-sheet shows us. In learning to accept ourselves, we must constantly repeat within our conscious mind, why we are more worthy of self-love and acceptance than what we think we are, why we should stop being judgemental about our capabilities and more openly accept the person that we are.
Today, let us gain strength from the mantra:
I am only human, I am doing the best that I can and that is all I can do.
The key to self-compassion is to understand that weakness and frailty are part of the human experience, by letting go of the mistakes we’ve made and moving on from past regrets.
Through all this introspection, let’s remind ourselves yet another time, that:
Coming to accept who we are involves loving ourselves because of our flaws, not in spite of them.
How good are you with self-acceptance? Have you ever struggled to see yourself beyond your failings and mistakes? What are the keys to self-acceptance according to you?